I work in an office made up predominantly of women. Lots of catty, gossipy women. So as much as I wanted to shout from the rooftops that I was engaged the moment I walked into the office, I held back. I just didn't know how to go about telling these people that I was engaged without inadvertently sparking rumors of how I'm gloating and rubbing it in people's faces. I mean, can someone please update me on Ms Manners' version of how to do this? Do you send out a mass email?
Do you hang a second plaque under your name on the outside of your cube?
Seriously, what is the etiquette here?
Secondly, one of my coworkers was recently engaged until her fiance called the whole thing off and left her less than a month before her wedding. Me and this particular coworker have not always gotten along, but I still felt bad for her, and I felt like coming in and being all "What's up! I'm ENGAGED, BITCHES!" would be hard for her. I thought that she needed the time to heal more than I needed praise and attention.
So I decided to not say anything and let people notice the ring on their own. I thought that would be the easiest way, and it couldn't be construed as tacky because I'd simply be reactive instead of proactive towards the situation. Problem solved, right?
Fast forward more than a week later and NOBODY HAD NOTICED.
I can't really blame anyone other than my team leads and my across the hall (ATH) cube neighbor, because I really don't see many other people besides them on a regular basis. I talk to a girl on the other side of one of my cube wall all day and it occurs to me that some days, like today, I don't even know what she's wearing. We shout at each other over the wall, but we don't really go hanging out in each other's cubes. So unless we run into each other in the bathroom or the break room, it's very possible not to see each other.
Eight days later, I started getting frustrated. I decided it was well past the decent amount of time for people to casually notice, and I realized that my Social Butterfly of an ATH cube neighbor was my best bet at getting this story going. So I started playing with my hair, or putting my left hand near my mouth while I was talking to her, hoping she would notice.
Completely. Effing. Oblivious.
Two more days pass and I've almost given up when my ATH cube neighbor's BFF shows up. I've got my back to her when she notices my ring as I'm typing and says, "OHMYGODJESSICA. ARE YOU ENGAGED?"
I say "Yeah" as my ATH cube neighbor says "No". Lol, she's such a tool sometimes.
Of course, the first question they ask is "When did it happen!?" And when I tell them they're all aghast that I waited so long to say anything, to which I replied, "Yeah, well, you know." Like, what the hell kind of answer is that?
The news caught like wildfire, and within a matter of an hour and a half, almost everyone in the department had stopped by to check out the ring and say congrats and give me some completely ridiculous advice.
I seriously could have used some guidance on the social conventions associated to this kind of thing. Telling my friends was so much easier:
Text to all my pals: "Dear all: He put a ring on it! First to call gets details, all others please take a number."
Soooo much easier!
How did you tell your coworkers you were engaged? Am I missing something? I mean, my time has already passed, because I don't plan on getting engaged a second time, but there's gotta be people out there who are currently Googling "What is the socially acceptable way to inform your coworkers that you're engaged?" and are stumbling their way here. Help me, help them.