Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Choosing your VIPs: A study of numbers

So far, the hardest thing about the early stages of planning the wedding has been choosing my bridesmaids.  When I sat down and really thought about who I'd like to have with me, the list was 14 women strong. 14.  Plus me = 15.

How many people is too many? 15! 15 is too many! Bwahahahaaaaaa

When I told my mom, she was like, "That's a f***ing quinceanera."

This horrific image immediately popped into my head.

I almost died.

I didn't want to cut anyone out of the list, but if I kept going the way I was, every female that I know would be in my bridal party.  What? They're all special to me, ok?

I started trimming down the list to those who were not already married-as is more traditional in my culture and would most likely keep my super-traditional grandma from having a shizznizzle fit.  I also figured my friends would most easily understand that.  But doing that would mean, in order to be fair, my sister wouldn't be in the party. Since she's married. Technically.

Unfortunately, my sister's going through a really painful divorce (I hate that phrase. Aren't all divorces painful?) and I didn't really know for a long time whether or not she wanted to be a part of my wedding or if it would be too hard for her.  As much as I wanted her there, I didn't want her to do something that made her uncomfortable or sad.  Turns out, she was PISSED I'd consider leaving her out.  She's a trooper like that.  :)

But a lot of good that idea did.  Using this rule, I'm only down to 12.  Now I'm thinking someone should just pitch an effing circus tent over my wedding, because it's already a freak show.

12 is still too many. 12!  BWAhahahaaaaaa

So I thought some more and decided to maybe stick strictly to direct family.  That would leave me with....5.

Cue huge sigh of relief.  5 is a MUCH more manageable number.

That's more along the lines of what I was looking for, but it still felt wrong.  I was heartbroken because I really wanted my friends in the party.  So I added Toni and Kelly, my two oldest and best friends.  I asked them because, not only do I consider them my family, my family considers them family too.

That makes 7.


That line is a little longer, no? eeeeeh, I'll let it slide.... bwahahaaa

A little larger than I initially anticipated, but just right for me.  Thanks for the help, Count VonCount.

Did you have a hard time picking your VIPs?  How did you trim down your list?


  1. Haha NO problem there on my end considering how small we kept our wedding. That is still a really large group, but I hope they're all super helpful when it comes to your day and getting you primped and ready--more hands hopefully equals more help, right??

    How will you pick who goes dress shopping with you? Will it be just your family or will you bring along the bms who are closest (geography wise) to you?

    1. I'll probably end up going with my mom and sister. I don't want to be confused by a million opinions.